
St. Francis is the epitome of non attachment. His father was a wealthy fabric merchant who expected Francis to continue in the elite tradition. One day Francis woke up to the fact that none of our worldly possessions really matter because its not what is on the outside but what you carry in your heart that really matters in the end.
Francis Bernardone threw away all of his tangibles, trappings and tricks and publicly denounced his inheritance. The more he gave away, the happier he was. He so impressed his friends with his freedom of spirit and his joy that they did the same and joined him eventually starting a new Order.
Non attachment is a big one that I have been working on for awhile. On the other hand, all 7 of these principles are equal in their bigness. On this Assisi Adventure I learned to let go even more.
First off, when you’re planning on taking a journey anywhere plus if there are other people involved (and it doesn’t matter if they’re family, friends you have known for eons or strangers) you have to allow room for other ways of thinking, doing and being. It’s a given.
I was prepared to be unattached to where I was walking or with whom; unattached to what I ate; where I slept; what I wore; even the weather.

One of my prized articles of clothing that accompanies me on every trip, except to Florida, is my ruana. A ruana is a wrap like a shawl or a serape that can be thrown over any amount of clothing for extra warmth, snuggled under as a blanket, bunched up as a pillow or folded up and sat on as a cushion. Mine came from Columbia, made of alpaca wool and given to me by a friend many years ago. Needless to say, I treasure my ruana.
When my friend, Marcia, fell and broke her ankle on day 3 she was right behind me on the downward side of the trail. I sat on the ground behind her and propped her against me so she had back support. It took a few minutes to discover that her leg was broken and decide how we were going to handle it. The effects of shock were an issue as well as the cold. Marcia needed a blanket, fast.
I was waiting for someone to do something and discovered that someone was me. Off came my cherished ruana to lay over my friend to keep her warm. I had accommodated people in the past and knew better than to consider any article a loan. Marcia was going to be picked up in an ambulance driven by Italian drivers and taken to an Italian hospital. I was prepared to never see my ruana again and gave it up willingly.
Another day on the walk one of the guides needed to write an important message and I gave up the small journal I was carrying in which to jot notes as memos for later blogs. A small book could easily be laid down and forgotten as we kept walking. Another moment of truth. How did I really feel about it?
Yes, I did get my ruana back and the journal. But, I took the opportunity to look inside, turn the light on and dust a few cobwebs out of the corners of my mind. We stuff our minds like we stuff our houses. Do we really need so much “stuff”?
What did I plan on getting out of this trip? An experience. That’s as far as I was willing to go. There really were no expectations other than meeting new people, seeing a beautiful country and walking and walking and walking. It was all left up to the Universe.
Sometimes we are so quick to judge by appearances that we miss out on meeting a beautiful person. The second day we were in Assisi, we were waiting for a local bus to take us to visit St. Mary of the Angels Basilica.

Along troops this young man pushing a trolley with what looked like all of his worldly belongings stacked on it. He asked us for directions. Come to find out, he had been on a long standing pilgrimage for several years, walking, walking, and walking. We invited him to the concert James was to hold that night in a church. He came and brought a friend as well.
When you’re ready to consider learning the art of non attachment, take a trip, any trip, the longer and farther the better. You don’t have to go camping and sleep on rocks to appreciate your own bed and pillow. You could be in a 4 star hotel or restaurant and be uncomfortable.

When you step out of your comfort zone, ask yourself why you are distressed. You may want to start clearing your mental attic or basement of thoughts and feelings that no longer serve you. Release the trash of guilt, doubt, jealousy, envy and past hurts. They’re all rubbish and not worth being attached to.